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Parent / Caregiver Group


The treatment approach of the Family Learning Program (FLP) is to provide group therapy for the entire family. Each member of the family will receive treatment which focuses on the issues of sexual abuse as they relate to that particular family member (i.e. parent, child victim of sexual abuse, or sibling).

Some families are surprised to learn that they will be involved in their child's treatment through group therapy. There are many reasons that make family participation an essential part of the sexually abused child's treatment:

¥ Children improve more quickly and to a greater degree than children whose families deny the abuse and arenÕt in treatment. Group treatment helps the entire family:

  • work through and understand their own response to the sexual abuse.
  • deal with strong emotions or painful memories if they were abused.
  • form a support network with other families who have experienced sexual abuse.
  • have a safe environment where they can ask questions, share feelings, and feel understood.
  • address the difficulties of raising a family in a supportive environment.
  • learn better ways to communicate, avoid power struggles, to respect one another and to grow closer together.
  • understand the dynamics of childhood sexual abuse
  • learn to reduce the risk of abuse in the future.

AFTER THAT FIRST GROUP, HOW DID YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT GROUP CHANGE?

"I felt very welcome by the people in group. It took me a few sessions to really open up and talk but nobody pushed me, so I could go at my own pace." Other parents' experiences varied in that they began feeling calmer and more relaxed in group which facilitated their being able to express their feelings in group. In addition, non-offending caretakers also reported that they felt support and acceptance after attending the group. Some group members believe that this acceptance that they felt is what led them to feel comfortable to share their thoughts and feelings about their children's sexual abuse. For other group members it took more time. "I hated the first few groups. I felt out of place. Didn't want to talk at first. I just about gave it up."

WHAT HAPPENS IN A NON-OFFENDING CARETAKER GROUP?

"Share, share, share, thoughts, feelings: happy, sad, anger, frustration."

"A lot of support. Discussion and handouts on child behavior and possible resolutions. learning you're not alone and children are children. Learning to be aware of a child's behavior pattern ... signs to watch for."

"We talk about anything really. We talk about things in our lives that we are bothered by or things we are happy about. If we have a problem, other people help us work through them. We also find out we aren't the only ones with these problems."

WHAT HAPPENS IF I DON'T FEEL LIKE TALKING IN GROUP?

"You aren't pushed into talking in group. We are asked to 'check in' from the prior week, but if you don't feel like talking you don't have to."

"You can listen, you can talk, whatever feels best for you. This is for your needs! The more you talk, the better you'll feel."

"I say I don't want to talk and stand my ground! But they always talk me into talking." Given that group members usually report feelings of relief after speaking their minds or expressing their feelings, group leaders may encourage you to talk even if you do not want to. However, the control always lies with you and if you do not want to talk you do not have to.

WHAT HAVE YOU GOTTEN OUT OF ATTENDING A
NON-OFFENDING CARETAKER GROUP?

"I have a real support network. If I have something I need to talk about I can, without fear of someone judging me. I also feel I can handle crises better." In addition, other parents report receiving support, being believed, and relief from stress. Another parent reports that she has been, "able to talk about what happened without being made to feel guilty."

HOW HAVE YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS ABOUT SEXUAL ABUSE CHANGED,
SINCE ATTENDING GROUP?

"I always thought this only happened to kids whose parents didn't care and to kids who were from families where there was improper upbringing."

"My views haven't changed, but group brought more awareness of abuse: its causes, signs, effects, etc."

MESSAGES FOR YOU FROM NON-OFFENDING CAREGIVERS IN GROUP THERAPY

"Hold on. Counseling does help. And you're not alone."

"This is a safe place to be, to share, and to learn."

"Stick with the program. It is worth it."

"Give it a try, for yourself and your children. It might help, but it definitely can't hurt."

 
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